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The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A …..

Posted by Sam February - 5 - 2018 0 Comment

The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A …..

I recently wrote and published my first book , autobiography titled ” Without Family Ties “. Naturally I am on a quest to find good material for the next book while I read other gravitating , provocative , pushing the envelop kind of books.

As interesting as the title is , it was hard to announce it out loud at the local  library for availability. It turned out, there is a waiting list at the library and a waiting list for their on line version. Clearly the book had touched a nerve or found a soft spot we all can relate to or desperately want to address.

My best friend knows me well and naturally she felt the need to share her book  “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck” with me.  It was a day when  I gave too much F…  about my buffalo, It is a buffalo that I never had. She shared it by audio which made it a lot harder for me to put it down. I finished it in 24 hours.

Here are some highlights :

  • If your metric for the value success by worldly standers is to buy a house and a nice car and you spent 20 years working your ass off to achieve it . Once its achieved, the metric has nothing more to give you. Say hello to your midlife crises, cause the problem that drove your entire adult life, was just taken away from you. Growth is what generates happiness not a list of arbitrary achievements.
  • The house that you buy is the same house you have to fix .The dream job you have is the same job you stress about. It takes a lot of effort to convince people your sh….t doesn’t stick , while u r living in a toilet.
  • Its not about giving a fuck about everything your partner gives a fuck about. It is about giving a fuck about your partner, regardless the fucks he/she gives. That’s unconditional love baby.

My favorite points or the ones I related to the most :

  • People who date others have similar values . If I dated someone with shitty values for that long , what does that say about my values ?
  • Depth is where gold is buried . You have to stay committed to something and dig deep to dig it up. That’s true in relationships, in a career, in building a great life style, in everything.

I do not know Mark Manson ” the author of the book”  and never met him. However I highly recommend his book. There are pearls of wisdom and lets be honest… we all can give a F about some pearls of wisdom.